The chemistry of Connection revealed by Dr. Love.

I keep saying that the reason I'm so passionate about Ceremony and want us to enjoy more of it in more areas of our lives and communities is because it is so powerful for creating connections between people.

And now I have the evidence from Dr. Paul Zak!  Check out the experiment Dr. Paul Zak conducted at a wedding on the whole wedding party.

Ceremony has stood the test of deep time as a means of revealing to us our essential connectedness.   I believe that awakening to our essential connectedness to each other, the Creation and All That Is is the way we will make the next evolutionary leap as a species.

A Share-a-mony for the 99%

A change of enormous magnitude is happening right now at the national and international level as structures of economic policy undergo deep and broad transformation.


Ceremony has stood the test of deep time as the most effective means of deriving peace, positive energy and resolve from the changes and trials that come with being a human among other humans.  This is because ceremonies have the power to connect us and remind us of what we share. 


The Celebrant Foundation and Institute offered the following outline for community or individual ceremony for the growing movement called Occupy Wall Street. Charlotte Eulette, International Director of CFI, calls this offering a "Share-a-mony". It is meant to be a structure upon which individuals and groups may create a ceremony that reflects their personal and community experience.

I share it with you now with the intention that these powerful changes will draw us closer to our highest vision of community here in the United States for the good of all the children of every species everywhere forever.


Things are happening

We reach out to make positive change

We shed a bright spotlight on the people 

99% of us cry out for equality, opportunity and quality of life

We light a candle

We acknowledge people around the world 
that have lost their jobs,

can't find jobs 

lost their homes, lost their lives, 

weighed down with debt - including student loans 

We pound our feet

Let's unite conservatives and liberals as

human beings & create solidarity with each other 

We can occupy peace not war 

We clap our hands

We become people oriented, independent thinkers

making the world a better place! 

We wish not merely to survive.

We wish to THRIVE 

Now Shout: I'm in!!! 

Dance in a circle 

hold hands 

Dance with joy

Dance by yourself in the kitchen 

Dance the dance to promote our circle of life

Dance now 

From my heart,

Michelle


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Please do! Just include this complete blurb with it. Michelle Smith is the founder of Asheville Celebrant. She is an ordained Inter-Faith Minister and Certified Life-Cycle Celebrant who helps people experience deeper, more meaningful connections in their families and communities. Whether helping people create personal ceremonies for life’s big changes or leading public ceremonies that build community, Michelle honors all philosophies, beliefs and traditions--religious, secular, spiritual, inter-faith and multi-cultural. To explore the possibilities for honoring your own life’s transitions email Michelle at ashevillecelebrant@gmail.com to set up a no-obligation Explore the Possibilities call.

5 Ways that Ceremony Helps Us Live Connected

Often when I talk with people after their ceremony, whether it is a union, a remembrance or a rite of passage, they tell me they are surprised at how powerfully moved they were by the ceremony we created together.   Sure, it was beautiful, but it was more than that - it was deeply moving and it strengthened their connections in ways they had no idea ceremony could provide.

Our culture has lost most of our ceremonies and the ones that do remain are often just something to get through before the party starts.  Most of us have no idea how much ceremony can enrich our lives.


So here are five ways that we can expect ceremony to help us live more powerful and connected lives:


1. Ceremony enables us to express ourselves, our desires and our intentions creatively and authentically.   When we take the opportunity to mark a transition with a personal ceremony we get to bring our creativity and imagination to the process.   We can include beautiful objects as well as favorite songs, poems and readings.  We can bring our sense of humor and our sense of the sacred.   We can decorate, dance and dress up!  Or we can simply share with others what this transition means and how much we appreciate the ways they’ve contributed to our journey.




2. Ceremony can provide comfort and support. Life is Change.  Whether we are excited about events and circumstances that bring change to our lives or devastated by them, ceremony and ritual help us attend to the big changes in our lives fully — spiritually, psychologically and socially.  The ceremonial arts have stood the test of deep time as the most effective means of deriving peace, positive energy and resolve from the changes and trials that come with being a human among other humans.


3. Ceremony says “this is who we are” as a family or community. Humans are social creatures and meaning-making beings.   We decide what we value by sharing it with other people.  Ceremonies, particularly those we return to such as Renewals of Vows or annual gatherings, allow us to re-connect with those shared values and create a sense of continuity and stability in an ever-changing world.


4. Ceremony helps us shape our present and mold our future.  Even the most eagerly anticipated transitions, like weddings, graduations, the welcoming of a baby or the launch of a business include uncertainty and a shifting of roles and responsibilities.  Studies have shown that meaningful rituals are associated with increased marital satisfaction and a heightened sense of personal identity among adolescents.  Ceremony provides elders a meaningful opportunity to pass down traditions and to give children a sense of belonging to something larger than themselves.


5.  Ceremony allows us to model authentic living to those who look to us for guidance. We’ve got a world to save, people.  I believe it will be saved by people who have consciously declared who and how we want to be in the world, then gone out and lived that declaration.  With ceremony we can share these intentions with our community and gain support for them.  Furthermore, we encourage others to declare their intentions as well.   Whether a change in our life is joyous or solemn, planned or unexpected, when we mark the transition in ways that are authentic and meaningful to us we not only help ourselves respond to the change with intention, we help our families and community respond intentionally as well.


Simply put, ceremony connects us and reminds us what we share. It was my passion for seeing all re-awaken to our connectedness that lead me to become a professional Celebrant and an Interfaith minister in the first place.


In this blog I will be sharing ideas for personal ceremonies and rituals that can help you build lasting connections in your family and community.  I’ll give insights from my experience and training in ceremony structure and theory to help you as you work with a Celebrant to create ceremony for the milestone transitions of your life.


And I’ll share some of my impressions from some of the ceremonies I’ve performed or observed that might reveal some of the wonderful, sometimes surprising,ways those ceremonies have forged connections for people.




From my heart,

Michelle




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Michelle Smith is the founder of Asheville Celebrant.  She is an ordained Inter-Faith Minister and Certified Life-Cycle Celebrant who helps people experience deeper, more meaningful connections in their families and communities.  Whether helping people create personal ceremonies for life’s big changes or leading public ceremonies that build community, Michelle  honors all philosophies, beliefs and traditions--religious, secular, spiritual, inter-faith and multi-cultural.   To explore the possibilities for honoring your own life’s transitions email Michelle at ashevillecelebrant@gmail.com to set up a no-obligation Explore the Possibilities call.